No matter how sick of the Twilight series some of us are, Vampires and Werewolves are still everywhere you look. These mythical creatures are the stars of more movies, books, television series, and comic books every single day. They are all too often playing the romantic lead in these tales, opposite a sweet, innocent human girl, too beautiful to resist and naive to know better. While these romances are dark and sensual, I wonder, are these tales of forbidden love more parallel to real life than we are willing to admit?
Let’s take a look at the general plot line. Start with Mutant (A). Mutant (A) is a werewolf or vampire who is dark and dangerous, yet he has the ability to care for his romantic interest-an idiot girl who thinks she is the exception to every rule. She thinks “Even though he is a vampire/werewolf/other monster, he loves me and would never hurt me. I am too special to him. He will protect me from harm.”
How different is this from real life? We all know a girl who has gone back to the wrong guy over and over and over again, no matter how many times he has proven that hanging out with him will get her eaten by werewolves blood sucked into deep trouble. This is the kind of guy who talks her into having sex when she is not ready. The kind of guy who puts her in harms way. The guy who doesn’t always treat her right when he is around his friends. But when it is just the two of them, he is nothing but sweet. He is just the nicest guy around. But he always ends up hurting her in the end.
In the movies, Mutant (A) always ends up putting his love interest into harms way. Her being around him automatically makes her life dangerous. There is always either a family of other mutants hot on her heels, and evil vampire ex-girlfriend waiting in the wings to have her taken care of, or the enemy group of mutants who know that if they hurt the love interest, they will make Mutant (A) vulnerable and can strike, hopefully leading to his demise. If this mutant really cared about his love interest, he would never put her in these situations! Instead, he keeps showing up and in the end, who gets hurt? The idiot girl.
Again, we ALL know a girl like this. No matter how many times she gets hurt as a result of the nonsense, she still goes back to the guy. Even though his crazy ex is calling her, she still wants to be the girl on his arm. If he ditches her for his boys, she is still waiting by the phone. If he is out and up to no good, she turns a blind eye and makes excuses for him. She thinks he would never hurt her, but he does. Every single day. And she lets him!
What is our obsession with trying to tame these dark creatures? Do we think that if we see a woman tame a vampire that we can really tame these jerk men? Is it really all a metaphor for our dating lives? Are we drawn to danger in our dating lives? Some people like extreme sports…do others like extreme dating?
I strongly feel that some women long for extreme dating. They like the idea of dating someone who they know is bad for them. Someone who will more than likely hurt them. Someone who has a history of treating women badly. Women are drawn to jerks far too often. It is like riding a bull. You want to tame the bull-just to say you did. If your man has a wild side and you were able to tame it and make him a stay-at-home-with-my-boo kind of guy, than you were victorious. And if he bucks you off and you get hurt, you get mad at him for being a bull. If your dating life is a bungee cord and it snaps, you sue the manufacturer…even though you damn well knew you were doing something dangerous.
If women know in their hearts that they will more than likely get hurt from certain types of men, why do they keep going back for more?
Are you an “Extreme Dater?” Are you dating the same monsters over and over again?
Cheers.
